How many country singers does it take to change a lightbulb?
Two. One to change the bulb, and one to sing about how good the old one was.
Okay, how about this version?
How many obese children does it take to change a lightbulb?
Only one, but the lightbulb has to really want to change.
Sure, it’s a hacky old joke, but it points to the universal human truth that in the evolution of an individual, very little happens without motivation. Like the mythological lightbulb, an overweight or obese kid has to really want to change. Motivation comes from within, and it can’t be forced upon another person. Adults can hope for the opportunity to provide the means to facilitate and aid change, and they can strive to create a healthy ambiance where change can take place.
Cracked.com, which has somehow become a serious website, recently published a piece unsuitable for children (because of language) but relevant to the topic of motivation. Frustrated with the way life is going, a person will reach a place where she or he will say “No more of this!” and make a declaration of intent to change.
It doesn’t matter what the situation is… without that decision to improve it, you’re going to stay exactly where you are, or worse.
But declaring isn’t enough. The breaking point isn’t real, says author John Cheese, until it’s combined with action. Or non-action, like not eating potato chips, for instance. “If ending addiction just required willpower and a decision to quit, nobody would have problems ever again,” he says. Yet problems persist, and one of them is, we soon realize that the results of real change take some time to show up, and we get impatient. For kids it’s even worse, because in youth, a week seems like a year.
Children, it must unfortunately be acknowledged, operate under a lot of constraints that don’t apply to adults. Media personality and former fat kid Alison Rosen recalled her preschool days, when the class parents would rotate and bring in snacks for “nutrition,” and any child who finished her or his share completely would be in the “clean plate club.” At least grownups don’t have to put up with that.
Now, what about the question that Dr. Pretlow has asked about the low quality-of-life rating chalked up by the obese youth studied by research professionals:
If obese young people are truly miserable, due to being obese, why don’t they simply eat healthy, exercise, lose weight, and not be miserable any more?
A main obstacle seems to be that people really, really don’t want to change, and that applies across the board — young, old, male, female, you name it. We all think we’re pretty darn special, even if miserable, and we cherish this false sense of integrity that is only an excuse to hang onto our bad habits. Cheese writes:
‘Staying true to yourself’ does not mean ‘never changing anything about yourself.’ It means allowing your mind to grow and improve, like it was designed to do…. If ‘being yourself’ ever comes with a cost, such as living in poverty or fear or misery, it’s time to re-examine and redefine what actually makes you who you are.
Your responses and feedback are welcome!
Source: “5 Things That Have to Happen Before You Fix Your Crappy Life,” Cracked.com, 01/09/14
Source: “Wintry mix,” AlisonRosen.com, 12/05/19
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