Oprah Through the Years, Part 12 — Bob Greene, Willpower, and Motivation

The previous post included some of the thoughts Dr. Pretlow has published on the subject of will/willpower. Now we look at precepts passed on to Oprah Winfrey by her longtime health and weight management coach, Bob Greene.

As reported in a Good Housekeeping article by Kate Coyne, the first inquiry that one should make to oneself is, “Do I have poor willpower?” As suggested in Part 8, the answer to that, in Oprah’s case, must have been an overwhelming “No!”.

Then comes a harder question: “Why is food my drug of choice?” For everyone who has ever engaged in a battle with their own body fat, figuring that out is a much more complicated challenge, which most folks apparently never quite manage to meet.

Possibly that difficulty is connected with the second Greene precept — taking responsibility. No fair blaming of family members, or job stress, or any other external factor. “If you’re offering up a lot of excuses, you’re wasting your time.” What is the antidote to time-wasting excuses? Stating goals, and making a solid commitment to meet those goals. It might help to draft a contract with oneself, and officially sign it — with the same degree of seriousness that one would give to any other binding legal document.

Adhere to your contract

An interesting feature of Greene’s philosophy is that he emphasizes the concept of willpower — “Your inner strength is most important” — and as suggested previously, perhaps everyone is naturally endowed with a great amount of inner strength, and the problem lies in their tendency to use it for different purposes, such as resisting any change in lifestyle or behavior.

Greene realizes that behavior change might have a better chance if it is introduced gradually, so don’t embark on an ambitious structured workout plan right from the jump. Use stairs instead of elevators, and if there are errands you can accomplish on foot, do that rather than drive. Walk the dog twice around the block instead of once. Just kind of creep up on change at first, and that deep-down revulsion against exercise might remain dormant. Then, follow his plan for a gradual increase.

The same goes for food, he advises. At first, cut out about 10% of the customary caloric intake; start learning about simple versus complex carbohydrates; cultivate a taste for vegetables; and enjoy a little bit of fat. And then, look into timing. At least three hours before sleep, stop eating. And over the long haul, expect ups and downs. There may be discouraging periods when it seems like nothing changes, so rather than give in to hopelessness, figure out how to cope with that.

Who you know

In 2021, Greene published a book titled It’s Not Who You Know… It’s Who You Train, referring of course to Oprah, who also had a hand in the authorship. Weight loss isn’t the main thing, but wellness is. Achieve a higher level of general wellness, and most people will find that weight loss comes much more easily. A person can lay a solid foundation for success by identifying and dealing with their emotional issues, and by pinpointing their counterproductive methods of stress alleviation and substituting more helpful ones.

An uncredited Chicago Tribune reporter wrote,

Although he was schooled to treat weight as a physical problem, his experience working with overweight people made it clear to him that psychological factors are crucial. Greene learned to probe for the reasons people seek comfort in food. “We need to start thinking about their motivations,” he says.“When I started employing that philosophy, that’s when I started having extreme success.”

Actually, maybe the motivation question is not that mystifying. Even an amoeba knows enough to take action to avoid pain. It probably also seeks pleasure. At any rate, Green provides a list of 10 habits which, if followed, will make a significant difference. One can will oneself into doing some things. For instance: always look for a way to turn a minus into a plus. Greene recognizes, for instance, that Oprah faces a lot of obstacles, starting with an inherently slow metabolism.

But even that, he turns into a plus, by acknowledging the stumbling block she deals with, and praising her for overcoming it:

“She can look at food and put on weight,” he says… “That’s why I think she’s one of best examples for other people… For her to get on the cover of Shape, I know how hard she needs to work. It’s harder than [it is for] 99 percent of the people.”

Your responses and feedback are welcome!

Source: “The Healthy Way to Lose Weight,” GoodHousekeeping.com, 04/05/04
Source: “ It’s Not Who You Know… It’s Who You Train,” ChicagoTribune.com, 08/19/21
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Oprah Through the Years, Part 11 — Concepts of Will

The previous post drilled down into the concept of will/willpower, and as predicted, this and the next two mention some thoughts from three prominent individuals: Robert Pretlow, M.D., Bob Greene, and Oprah Winfrey.

Dr. Pretlow

Years ago, after studying messages from many children via his interactive Weigh2Rock website, the Childhood Obesity News founder pointed out the futile and intractable nature of a mental/emotional mechanism that ties in with the overeating that is the chief cause of childhood obesity. Sadly, the child involved may resist any intervention, and show “classic, addict-like behaviors of obfuscation, rationalization, deflection, lying, cheating, and denial of their struggles.”

This also connects with the “willpower vicious cycle” in which a child finds resisting the excessive eating behavior so stressful that the resistance itself generates a (perceived, not actual) need to cope with that stress by eating even more; followed by an awareness of failure and sense of guilt that creates yet more stress and… well, we can all see where this is going.

That discussion was connected with the idea that “although the addiction basis for obesity remains a debate, addiction treatment methods may still be evaluated.” In particular, we are talking about the smartphone app and obesity intervention tool known as BrainWeighve, which additionally serves as a research tool for refining addiction treatment and finding ways to overcome treatment resistance.

… Which leads back to willpower

How so? It takes plenty of determined resistance to fight off the efforts of caring parents, attentive school officials, a concerned government, and a very well-equipped and competent medical profession. It is quite possible that kids who resist help in the struggle against obesity do not lack willpower at all. They have plenty of it, and are simply employing it counter-productively by resisting the wrong thing.

Quite some time ago, Dr. Pretlow began speaking and writing about the displacement mechanism:

Moving the opposing drives out of equilibrium, by resolving a person’s problems (displacement sources), theoretically should halt the displacement mechanism and might comprise an intervention for overeating/obesity, as well as other addictions. If the individual can either face or escape from the problematic situations, the displacement behavior of overeating should stop on its own without struggling and without willpower.

Stating this another way:

The displacement mechanism may be a useful basis for treatment of eating addiction and obesity and may provide individuals with hope that they can curb their addiction without relying on willpower to not overeat. If the displacement mechanism accounts for overeating, then targeting this mechanism in treatment should facilitate significant reductions in overeating without necessitating willpower to eat less.

Could it be that displacement intervention (problem-solving, rechanneling excess brain energy), is just another way of saying “willpower”? Is it possible that the brain energy is not even excessive, but only misdirected? Maybe we need all of it, and maybe it is just like the will — a neutral force that can be used to achieve good or bad ends. Perhaps the problem is not how much of it is present or absent in the person. The whole problem may be how that capacity to want something is set to work in the real world.

There is also the tendency of willed results to be self-replicating. Will can lead to success, and success can lead to more willpower, because success feeds the will. Some people have found that even a tiny bit of will, pointed in the right direction, can fan the flame and strengthen their will’s overall potency. For some people it works that way; for others, it does not. If there is to be hope of achieving anything, a recurring concept presents itself: the impossibility of creating a one-size-fits-all program.

Your responses and feedback are welcome!

Source: “A Smartphone App Platform for Treatment of Obesity Using the Addiction Model,” Weigh2Rock.com, 2015
Source: “The displacement mechanism: a new explanation and treatment for obesity,” Weigh2Rock.com, 2010
Source: “Reconceptualization of Eating Addiction and Obesity as Displacement Behavior and
a Possible Treatment,” Springer.com, 06/22/22
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Oprah Through the Years, Part 10

This definition appears on many, many web pages:

Will is that faculty of the mind which selects, at the moment of decision, the strongest desire from among the various desires present.

A lengthy online search reveals two things:

1. The only reference anyone seems willing to use as a footnote for that quotation is Wikipedia.
2. Philosophers will argue all day about the tiniest nuance of the concept, including whether there is a difference between “will” and “willpower.”

Will is often known as “free will” with good reason, as any desire, however strong, is futile unless one has the freedom to impose one’s will upon the environment (including oneself and other people) in order to fulfill that desire. Someone chained in a stone-walled pit could possess the most awesome will in the world, and still not be able to use it.

The series “Breaking Bad” and other popular entertainments in the action genre are fascinating because they illustrate prodigious feats of willpower exerted in extreme situations. Anyone who gets excited about such a TV show or movie can probably be depended on to recount at tedious length an impressive escape sequence.

One definition of will begins with, “Arguments for free will have been based on…” — and what does that even mean? The notion that free will exists at all? Or “for” in the sense of being in favor of it, as in, “Free will is a good thing”? And even those few words are misleading, because they assume that will and free will are the same thing.

The initial quotation, about selecting the strongest desire, runs into a problem, because a paralyzed person can will all day long, “I will move one finger” and no matter how strong that intention is — even if it is the strongest of many various desires — it’s not going to happen, which would imply a definite lack of power. So how could will and willpower be synonymous? It would seem that will alone is not enough, and that power is a separate and distinct factor here.

Getting a grip on will

Philosophers might explore the theoretical notion that everyone has the same amount of willpower. Could it be that (leaving aside the possibility of organic brain damage) every human is born with willpower, even an enormous reservoir of it, or at least as much as anyone else? Then why are the end results so different? Can a person grow, cultivate, or otherwise obtain more willpower? Can a person steal someone else’s? Or take a pill and get some? Can a human renounce willpower, as religious doctrines recommend? Apparently, it is quite possible for someone to put aside their own desires and live instead by the will of a deity, or karma, or fate.

Why does will so frequently go wrong? Does the problem lie in whatever particular end the person is willing or wanting? Can someone who sincerely wishes to die find a way? Should they be allowed to? When someone’s strongest desire is apparently to weigh 800 pounds, should they be allowed to? If not, who should stop them? And how? To what extent should an individual be permitted to follow the dictates of her or his own will? To what extent should a population be expected or forced to accede to the willful desires of a political leader?

Fortunately, this venue is not where such matters are decided. Here we are concerned with the individual. If a person gives the appearance and displays the behavior of someone wanting a harmful condition or outcome, what can be done? It would seem like the trick is to figure out why that person wants what they want; and then to help them internalize the concept that it would be better if they wanted something else instead; and then to somehow teach, lead, or persuade them into wanting something else instead, and then help them figure out how to attain the desired dénouement.

Rather than be sidetracked into researching Plato, Spinoza, Descartes, Schopenhauer, et al, subsequent posts look into what three contemporary authorities (Robert Pretlow, M.D., Bob Greene, and Oprah Winfrey) have said about will and willpower.

Your responses and feedback are welcome!

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Oprah Through the Years, Part 9

The previous post explored the idea that perhaps willpower is a neutral quality that can be either helpfully used, or dreadfully exploited. It has a dual nature, like so many things in life, as portrayed by the ancient yin-yang symbol.

The piece also proposed that no matter what ailed our subject in the years when her weight bounced up and down, or soared as high as 237 pounds, her accomplishments in several fields are undeniable. Whatever else might be thought, or said, about her, one thing is for certain: Oprah Gail Winfrey has never experienced a shortage of the energy we know as willpower.

Some might point out that many people have struggled with weight issues, so why choose her as a case study? But… is there anyone more suitable? Data is the basis of research, and who else on the planet do we have more information about, and more pictures of? And just as an extra bonus, Oprah happens to be a very sharing (some might say over-sharing) individual when it comes to revealing facts about herself. How else would we know how much she weighed in 1992?

Speaking of oversharing, that 1988 fat-wagon show-and-tell session that she later regretted was actually brilliant. (Third photo down on this website: TV is a visual medium; movement is an essential part of it, and what else could seize the attention like a ginormous 67-pound blob of fat in a little red wagon?

A mortifying fiasco

But in the history of show business, many a brilliant publicity stunt has turned out to be an embarrassing mistake, which is what happened here. Before long, Oprah had to admit that the benefits of four months on a liquid diet had gone into reverse the moment she started eating normally again. A recent article by Clare Stephens, Executive Editor at Mamamia, articulates the two distinct reasons why the incident was so regrettable. Years later (2011), as a guest on Entertainment Tonight, the star described it as “One of the biggest ego trips of my life” because:

The ego was my belief that being in those Calvin Klein jeans made me worthy as a human being, or more valuable, or made me better.

But disproportionate self-regard, however pathological it might be, is an individual problem, and a matter for discussion with one’s spiritual advisor or psychologist. The second reason why Oprah called it a mistake is much more far-reaching, especially for one whose sphere of influence is the entire planet, as Stephens explains. It was tantamount to an accusation, a stunt that stigmatized fat to an audience of millions of humans, mainly women, with the implication that they too could shed their extra poundage if only they cared enough and were smart enough to make the required effort.

Messing with their self-esteem

As Oprah later acknowledged, the wagon demonstration basically “set a standard for people watching that I nor anybody else could uphold.” But rather than reining in an unhealthy tendency and cutting short a harmful trend of thought, the wagon episode was only the start of further years of maintaining and upholding a diet culture that “has far more to do with aesthetics than health.”

Oprah’s famous quotation about how “all the success doesn’t mean anything if you can’t fit into your clothes” was a scathing indictment of women (and men) everywhere. It belittled wonderful parents who happen to be fat, regardless of how beloved and beautifully raised their children might be. It denigrated overweight workers who have no time or money to join a gym. It dismissed overweight artists, no matter how outstanding their creations might be. It criticized people who struggle with the genetic misfortune of being born with large frames and bodily systems that do not process food optimally.

“It means the fat won,” Oprah declared, which amounted to labeling a vast number of her devoted fans as losers. But, as Stephens points out, Oprah was not an “aberration,” not just some weirdo who hated fat people and didn’t mind letting them know — but a particularly noticeable individual articulating the mindset of a fat-hating culture.

Your responses and feedback are welcome!

Source: “In 1985 Joan Rivers asked Oprah a Question,” Mamamia.com, 05/13/24
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Oprah Through the Years, Part 8

Remember Oprah’s 1986 quotation? “All the fame and the success doesn’t mean anything if you can’t fit into the clothes. If you can’t fit into your clothes, it means the fat won. It means you didn’t win.”

Of course, a billionaire can hire the best dress designers to make beautiful and flattering clothes of any size, and the best hair designer to create a wide hairstyle that fools the eye into making the figure appear slimmer. But you still didn’t win. The fat still won.

This is one of the tragic realities of financial success. You will still be you, even if you can afford some workarounds. “Being you” can mean a lot of different things, but perhaps one of the things it does not mean is a lack of willpower. The idea is worth exploring.

At that point, Oprah Winfrey had not yet begun to work with trainer Bob Greene. Skip ahead 10 years to 1996, when he published a book called Make the Connection: Ten Steps to a Better Body and a Better Life, in which he wrote,

The tough part is finding the discipline, inner strength and willpower to carry out the ten steps.

But wait! If this Greene fellow was correct about the necessity for willpower, and if Oprah truly had none, then how on earth did he become famous as the guru who finally helped set her feet on the right path? Here is another puzzling question. Isn’t this exactly what we here at Childhood Obesity News are trying to get away from: the idea that, in order to lose weight, a person must have a huge supply of willpower — which some people simply don’t possess?

Say what?

Putting those questions aside for a moment, let’s get back to Oprah, who by the mid-80s had piled up gigantic accomplishments in many areas of both creative and material achievement. The idea that she lacked discipline, inner strength, or willpower is ludicrous. Nobody could do all that without heaps of those qualities. So, what is going on here?

Maybe, just maybe, a semantic problem is involved. People might talk about a concept using the same word, but actually hold radically different ideas about what it means. For instance, a patient with a severe eating disorder like anorexia is — even while institutionalized under strict conditions — capable of taking many actions to elude or sabotage treatment that is intended to help them get well. This definitely requires willpower, and lots of very sick people have a ton of it. So, obviously, willpower cannot be an unalloyed good.

But here is a spark of comic relief, thanks to Senior Specialist in Technical Training, Brian Lallatin, who collected an impressive number of lightbulb jokes for the University of Maryland’s website.

During a certain era, the lightbulb joke was all the rage, with the punchline based on an unflattering stereotype of some group. For instance, “How many stoners does it take to change a light bulb? Three: One to hold up the lightbulb, and two to turn the ladder.” The one that really applies here is,

How many psychiatrists does it take to change a light bulb? Only one, but the bulb has got to really WANT to change.

This is a self-evident problem with the whole addiction field. No program can help someone who really does not feel any need for change, and that includes addicts. Nobody is going to change unless and until they want to. But, difficult as this may be to believe, a professional expert might agree to the proposition that someone must sincerely want to change — and yet still insist that there must be a cure in which “willpower” is not a necessary component. However, those two beliefs cannot both be true, making this a case of cognitive dissonance that needs to be resolved somehow.

Will means want; willpower means wantpower.

But what is “will,” except another way of saying “want”? And just like wantpower, willpower can be applied to any project. It can be exercised on others, or on the self. Like fire, it can save a life or take a life. It can be applied consciously or unconsciously. Everyone is applying and exercising their will, all the time. Even the most profound apathy is basically caused by a want: The will to do nothing.

Allowing Nature or Fate to take its course is seen from some perspectives as the worst possible choice, and seen by other philosophies as the height of enlightenment. To abandon oneself, and refuse to exert want or will, is an attitude that can destroy the self or others. It can also be seen as the epitome of realization.

A person bent on self-destruction obviously wants to destroy the self, even if by doing nothing. This is all very confusing. What, for instance, is a hunger strike? It is the refusal to eat, and an intention to do nothing instead. Literally, suicide. But surely, for a political prisoner to discipline herself or himself to refuse food, in order to protest conditions or support a cause that one believes in with all one’s heart… Doesn’t that require a considerable exertion of will?

(To be continued…)

Your responses and feedback are welcome!

Source: “Lightbulb Jokes,” cs.umd.edu, undated
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Oprah Through the Years, Part 7

“You can have it all, you can’t have it all at once.” A lot of people other than Oprah Winfrey have said this, sometimes in slightly different words. A variation is, “You can have it all, but you can’t do it all.” The meaning is the same, because among the things a person wants to have are the freedom and capacity to do the things a person wants to do. Anyway, most of the people who say these things are women — but that is a whole different essay.

Among others, writer Katie Fox has expanded on the concept:

The pressure to seize the day and make the most of every moment can rob us of our joy in the present. But it can also destroy the measured, patient hope we have for our future, looking ahead at other seasons to come and trusting that the dreams we’ve had to put up on the shelf will still be there waiting for us when we’re ready to dust them off again.

Of course, if an idea has any validity at all, surely more than one person will have thought of it. And another person has probably already said it out loud, only the time wasn’t right, or some other circumstance prevented the world from noticing the glaring importance of the concept. It would be interesting to trace back through the archives of history and learn who is credited with the very earliest known use of the thought, “You can have it all, just not all at once,” whichever way it is expressed.

But the important point here is that everyone who ever expressed this thought has been a link in a chain of humans who carry forward the message: You cannot eat a lot, or the wrong things, or a lot of the wrong things, and also possess a slim figure.

Way back in 1977, the co-anchor of a news show at WJZ TV in Baltimore made her first visit to a diet doctor. The 23-year-old Oprah weighed 148 pounds when a doctor placed her on a 1,200 calories-per-day program, and in two weeks she had lost 10 pounds. And in two months, she had regained 12. This started a revolving-door existence through all the popular diets of the time.

But, as she later learned, “I was starving my muscles, slowing down my metabolism, and setting myself up to gain even more weight in the end.” By 1984, she was up to 200 pounds, and in 1986 told the public that she hated herself for it.

In an interview the same year, she said,

All the fame and the success doesn’t mean anything if you can’t fit into the clothes. If you can’t fit into your clothes, it means the fat won. It means you didn’t win.

Then came the infamous “wagon of fat” episode when Oprah thought she was cured, but immediately, relentlessly, the weight came back. As she later said, “You have to find a way to live in the world with food,” and it was in 1992, at her 237-pound heaviest, that the star met the exercise physiologist and personal trainer who helped her find that way and turn her life around.

As we have seen, Bob Greene has been a marvelously helpful influence on Oprah Winfrey through the years, and thanks to the power of her endorsement, has also been immeasurably helpful to thousands of other people too. One feature of his method is to stop someone in their tracks and insist on examining basic questions, the ones that must be addressed whether you are a butcher, baker, or candle-stick maker; a stay-at-home mom, or one of the wealthiest women in the world:

1. Why are you overweight?
2. Why do you want to lose weight?
3. Why haven’t you been successful?

It took Oprah a couple of years to have an important epiphany:

I finally realized that being grateful to my body, whatever shape it was in, was key to giving more love to myself. Although I’d made the connection intellectually, living it was a different story.

(To be continued…)

Your responses and feedback are welcome!

Source: “You Can Have It All (But Not All at Once),” TheArtOfSimple.net, 06/11/14
Source: “The Highs and Lows of Oprah Winfrey’s 50-Year Weight Loss Journey,” MSN.com, 2024
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Oprah Through the Years, Part 6

Oprah Winfrey’s drug of choice is reportedly the humble potato chip, or rather, plenty of potato chips — an obsession that is all too easily, understandably, and regretfully shared. At one point, she confessed to having been “controlled by potatoes for 40 years.”

Now, we have just finished up a year during which the star appeared in headlines because of admitting that she used a popular weight-loss drug. Many of her fans felt somehow betrayed, while others experienced relief, as if their mentor had personally given them permission to do the same. Oprah had previously spoken to the press about a realization she came to when moderating a panel about weight.

Calling it an “aha moment,” she said,

I realized I’d been blaming myself all these years for being overweight, and I have a predisposition that no amount of willpower is going to control. Obesity is a disease. It’s not about willpower — it’s about the brain.

For NPR, Vanessa Romo reported that Ms. Winfrey intended to elevate the conversation, advocate for health equity, and work to reduce stigma. In particular, her intention was to be finished with shame, whether flung by others or self-inflicted. She was done with five oppressive decades of “feeling like, ‘Why can’t I just conquer this thing?’, believing willpower was my failing.”

She also said,

All these years, I thought all of the people who never had to diet were just using their willpower, and they were for some reason stronger than me. And now I realize: y’all weren’t even thinking about the food! It’s not that you had the willpower; you weren’t obsessing about it!… I’m not constantly thinking about what the next meal is going to be.

Oprah was referring to the well-known effect achieved by the GLP-1 drugs, of silencing the “food noise” that constantly besieges the brain of a person who tries to cut calories. Of course, it should have been bountifully obvious already that no one who didn’t have a ton of willpower could have chalked up so many First, Best, Most and Only citations.

You heard it here

This blog has mentioned the 2003 TV broadcast during which Oprah gave a Porsche to a man who had lost more than 300 pounds. In a later interview, she explained why that was, for her, such a power moment — because “I know what it takes to lose that much weight… What he did was incredible.”

Years later, her life coach Bob Greene talked to a journalist about Oprah’s accomplishment in being on the cover of Shape magazine, despite her naturally slow metabolism. “She can look at food and put on weight… I know how hard she needs to work. It’s harder than (it is for) 99 percent of the people.”

Regarding the ability to feel this much empathy and share the same quality of awareness, it might lead to a question like, “Who learned what from whom?” To have an alert and untiring pupil is a boon for the specialist in any field. The student’s questions are the opportunity to spell out things that perhaps the expert takes for granted, but which are nowhere near obvious to the novice. It presents an opportunity for the expert to refine the thought and discover exactly how a precept can best be articulated. The teacher also learns.

For a large part of their time together, Greene spent 10 months of each year with Oprah, considering himself to be “on call” pretty much always. To be available for psychological support can be very useful to the counselor as well as the subject. With every out-of-hours request for a listening ear, the helper gets to hear what is going on, from the patient’s perspective, in real time, before there is a chance to edit, embroider, or re-consider. Really, what more could an ever-curious professional ask?

Your responses and feedback are welcome!

Source: “After nearly a decade, Oprah Winfrey is set to depart the board of WeightWatchers,” NPR, 3/1/24
Source: “Oprah Winfrey reveals she starved herself ‘for nearly five months’ in ABC weight loss special,” USA TODAY, 3/18/24
Source: “Oprah Winfrey says she has released the shame of being ‘ridiculed’ for her weight for 25 years,” ABC News, 3/19/24
Source: “It’s Not Who You Know… It’s Who You Train,” Chicago Tribune, 8/19/21
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