Chasing Stigma Through the Ages, Part 3

Here is the sort of fact that AI proves its singular brand of genius by identifying: In modern written English, the verb “stigmatize” occurs only once in every million words.
In real life, the act of stigmatizing occurs a million times every second. Yes, that is only a figure of speech, not officially verified. But an aware parent is all too likely to discover that when their kid is stigmatized, one incident per year is too many.
We don’t want a child to cry because another six-year-old decided that it’s lame to bring an apple in your home-packed lunchbox, and made an issue out of it. Nor do we want a 14-year-old to contemplate suicide because some teenage idiot mocked his haircut. Humiliating one’s peers is a favorite sport of kids, and learning how to avoid being targeted is an important life skill.
To stigmatize a fellow human being is to brand, label, mark, stamp, defame, denounce, and disgrace… All things that a decent parent does not want done to a daughter or son, no more than they would want that child to be shot, drowned, or set on fire. Acknowledging his expertise on the subject, we stick for a while longer with author Erving Goffman:
By definition, of course, we believe the person with a stigma is not quite human. On this assumption we exercise varieties of discrimination, through which we effectively, if often unthinkingly, reduce his life chances.
Tragically, even some parents exist who practice types of discrimination against their own overweight offspring, and effectively reduce those children’s odds of ever achieving various life benefits, including mental health. Those parents are of course welcome on this page, with the understanding that they need more help than can be found here, and with the hope that they recognize the sad fact and seek that help.
Sticks and stones may break my bones…
“[b]ut words will never hurt me.” For centuries, parents have repeated that old saying to their children, with little effect. Goffman, of course, mentions the obvious: the cruel propensity for inventing rude nouns and adjectives to characterize the stigmatized people. In our particular area of interest, we have seen how even the professionals who are trained and paid to care most about their clients have been capable of using, and even coining, terminology that can easily be read as offensive.
But of course, it goes further than verbal insults. Humans have always had a wonderful talent for explaining the world by constructing mythologies, origin stories, legends, doctrines, lore, and folk tales to explain the various universal phenomena of everyday life. Goffman wrote,
We construct a stigma-theory, an ideology to explain his inferiority and account for the danger he represents… We tend to impute a wide range of imperfections on the basis of the original one, and at the same time to impute some desirable but undesired attributes, often of a supernatural cast, such as “sixth sense,” or “understanding…”
That last remark is striking because, of course, it is true of fat people, who are rumored to be gifted with an extraordinary sense of humor. On the downside, however, this is countered by the large number of associated negative stereotypes that are so familiar, there is no need to list them here. Goffman wrote,
Shame becomes a central possibility, arising from the individual’s perception of one of his own attributes as being a defiling thing to possess, and one he can readily see himself as not possessing… In some cases it will be possible for him to make a direct attempt to correct what he sees as the objective basis of his failing.
Obesity is famous for being — unlike blindness, for instance — a handicap that a person can get rid of just by taking control and doing what’s necessary to shed 50 or 250 pounds. Many people have done exactly that, and still come out on the other side with problems.
Or, they were unable to succeed in the first place, often because of insufficient knowledge and preparation. The author cites “[…] the stigmatized person’s exposure to fraudulent servers selling speech correction, skin lighteners, body stretchers, youth restorers, cures through faith….” or, in this case, shady peddlers of methods and medicines that somehow just never seem to work out.
Here is Goffman’s take on one way in which “happily ever after” can be an elusive outcome:
Where such repair is possible, what often results is not the acquisition of fully normal status, but a transformation of self from someone with a particular blemish into someone with a record of having corrected a particular blemish.
Who wants to spend the rest of their life being introduced with the footnote, “You’re not gonna believe this, but Howard used to weigh more than 400 pounds!”
Of course, it’s still preferable to the alternative.
Your responses and feedback are welcome!
Source: “Stigmatize,” OED.com, undated
Source: “Stigmatize,” Thesaurus.com, undated
Source: “Stigma: Notes on the Management of Spoiled Identity,” WordPress.com, 1963
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