Blame and Shame — The Costs Mount Up

The recent post “It’s Worse Than Wrong, It’s Useless” points out a very high societal cost that occurs because of fat-shaming. The negative effect is to make lots of people feel bad about themselves, and/or about any overweight relatives and friends they happen to have. When we view the big picture, it is clear that any tendency to mentally divide the community into healthy-weight “good guys” and obese “bad guys” can lead to nothing but a bad end.
Of course, children and teens are not the only ones who experience fat-shaming. Grownups get plenty of it too, and the fact that most of it is probably done inadvertently and without awareness does not make the situation any better. In fact, subtlety is almost worse, in a way, because the target then wastes a lot of mental energy on analyzing whether the insult was intended or is merely a thoughtless incident.
When you stop and think about it, to state an opinion about anyone’s overweight condition is quite unfair, considering that the speaker might have some harmful tendency equally as serious, or even more so, that just doesn’t happen to show. Fat people are pathetically obvious targets, while individuals with far darker and more dangerous lifestyles may stroll among us looking innocent as lambkins. Why don’t we all just keep our thoughts to ourselves? As Grandma once embroidered on a sampler, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.”
Going to extremes
In a work that won’t even be footnoted here because, really, the whole thing is just gross and jam-packed with what is considered in polite society to be censorable language. George Carlin called obese people “huge piles of redundant protoplasm” and much, much worse. This subject, incidentally, only came up because of the random sighting of a meme making the claim that Carlin once said, “If you can’t fat-shame the one you love, fat-shame the one you’re with.” But verification of the remark proved elusive.
However, the takeaway provided by that quest is that if a graduate student ever wants to research the most extreme verbal abuse ever aimed at obese people, Carlin is the go-to source.
Next up
Now we look at a very personal essay by a writer known as Soler Bean, who has some things to say to anyone whose hobby is “trying to gauge someone’s health simply based on what they look like.” This does not mean the person is a particularly acute observer, but it might mean that she or he is a type of individual defined by a generic term that begins with the letter “a.” (Similar to George Carlin but on the opposite side of the debate, other folks become inspired to use rude language, too.)
One topic of discussion here is the plus-size performer Lizzo, who made a public appearance in a very small bathing suit. Condemning the star for “mindless glorification” of fat, a critic snarked, “Hopefully people with open wounds, leprosy or other diseases won’t start wearing tiny red bikinis.”
Leprosy? Seriously? But this is only one more example of how fat-shaming, body-shaming, and the pretense of caring about a large person’s well-being are rooted in our culture. Even the medical profession has been accused of automatically and erroneously equating thinness to health, wrongfully convicting fatness as the cause of illnesses that have nothing to do with weight.
The author deplores this holier-than-thou approach and gives examples of its effects on actual friends and acquaintances, and also provides a convenient list of points to remember:
1. People do not have to appear to be “healthy” for you to respect them.
2. Body shaming solves literally nothing.
3. Thinking that any food-related health issue can be entirely blamed on the individual and not the society around them is asinine.
4. Empathy goes a long way.
5. It costs $0.00 to mind your business.
Your responses and feedback are welcome!
Source: “The Reason You Hate Fat People Isn’t Because You Care About Their Health,” AnInjusticeMag.com, 02/09/20
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