Prepare for the Worst

It may seem harsh, but a very effective way to develop awareness is to get a taste of some of the things that unfeeling strangers will be saying about your beloved children a few years from now if you don’t get out ahead of this potential problem. It’s a shameless scare tactic, an effort to shock any mom or dad into planning ahead, and vowing to never let their children feel the pain of being ridiculed and ostracized.
The object here is to provide motivation for parents who are not yet dealing with childhood obesity; to solidify their determination that the family will never need to deal with it:
This is how fat-shaming works: It is visible and invisible, public and private, hidden and everywhere at the same time… — Michael Hobbes
To quote what people have said and done is one way to predict what they intend to do. These examples represent how people might be treating your beloved child someday. Probably no one deliberately decides to have a child who will be disrespected or ridiculed because of their appearance. The very fact that we might envision such a fate, and dread it, could make us hate ourselves for being so prejudiced, or for even thinking of such a thing.
But let’s not lose the thread. These glimpses into a potential future are for the benefit of brand-new parents, or for couples still at the stage where parenthood is not yet even a special gleam in the eye:
I struggled with anorexia for years… My girlfriend at the time used to get so mad at me, because she assumed my need to lose weight and be “thin” extended to her. She was perfect and stunningly beautiful, and her fat was never a problem for me. My “fat” was. Because I had a mental illness that almost cost me my life… — crimsoncat21
Obesity prevention is a subject that future moms and dads should probably consider, sooner rather than later, especially if the tendency to be overweight runs in the family. Such a possibility needs to be acknowledged, brought up and discussed, to (hopefully) discourage unnecessary conflict later on. If either parent comes from a heritage where people tend to be overweight, to prepare for that eventuality cannot be wrong.
Could anyone be blamed for making an emotional plea to future parents? Something like, “People may be very disrespectful of your unborn child, someday. They may call your child names and hurt her or him with a thousand small, everyday hostilities. Please make it a priority to not let your child grow up fat.”
To be honest, thin people dealing with fat-phobia is just thin people trying not to look like me. NOT looking like me is worth everything they hate doing but force themselves to suffer through and everything they love but deprive themselves of. As though looking like me is the worst thing they could possibly imagine… — airagorncharda
Is it possible to ever say enough about fat-shaming? Apparently not, because the culture provides a boundless array of examples from which to choose. For the benefit of any reader who wishes to make an in-depth study of this discouraging phenomenon, we gather relevant quotations, useful to any parent or medical professional who has not yet developed a comprehensive mental grasp of the pervasive hate aimed at overweight people in our society:
It’s like the adults are giving the kids permission to view fatness as wrong and something that you need to change… In an effort to make students aware, the campaign had made one girl’s problem far worse… — Lindo Bacon
Journalist Bethany Brookshire interviewed writer, speaker and scientist Lindo Bacon about visiting a school to speak during National Childhood Obesity Month, and how a very large girl student cried because during that period, she came in for even more than the usual share of bullying.
We hope to capture the ear of parents who are not yet dealing with childhood obesity, with the object of motivating them to avoid the issue at all costs. Before that cute, cuddly baby even walks, is the appropriate time to start thinking about this issue and about how to head it off at the pass. Awareness is a wonderful way to begin — awareness of how much you really do not want to see your child or children become victims of fat-phobia.
Your responses and feedback are welcome!
Source: “Everything You Know About Obesity is Wrong,” HuffingtonPost.com, 09/19/18
Source: “crimsoncat21,” Tumblr, undated
Source: “Weight shaming is literally sickening,” ScienceNewsForStudents.org, 09/30/21
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